Jambon, can't even imagine having my kids going to meetings after I came to my realization. It reminds me of when I was little, I used to wish that people I loved (great grandparents, cousins, schoolmates) would die before Armageddon, so they would be resurrected. Good lord, not things little kids should be contemplating. I surely hope your story has a happy ending. NMKA
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The effect of this religion on my children & the action I had to take - Part II
by jambon1 ini posted this part of the story earlier this week.. http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/experiences/191112/1/the-effect-of-this-religion-on-my-children-the-action-i-had-to-take-part-i.
so we are at the point where my daughter has been taking in my lifestyle for 4 years since she i left the truth when she was just 4 years old.
my son who is a couple of years younger thankfully seems to be immune to most of the indoctrination from the jws.
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The effect of this religion on my children & the action I had to take - Part I
by jambon1 ini have been meaning to tell this story for some time now.
i feel that i would like to share it so that it may serve as a warning to anyone who thinks that the jw religion does not have a negative effect on children.. i have been out of the religion for 4 years now.
i wasn't brought up in the organisation.
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Great story. Glad you have the advantage of parents that were never "in". As a 3rd generation families my husband had not noticed how messed up JW families are including our own, you know whole branches of family no one talks to and the 15 year old that has been exiled for one act of teen aged rebellion or another. Then I had my own children! This made me explore the fact that I had not seen or talked to my own DF'ed father for 30 years. I saw my children growing up, I pictured then not going to college, marrying at a young age or maybe not having a relationship with them. Yikes! I too had one of those moments, May 3rd 2008, told my husband on the way home from a meeting that I would not be going back. He is out now too. The sacrifice of family that is "in" has well been worth it to give them a normal life. They actually thank me on a regular basis for getting them out. Good job Dad! NMKA
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Are you a stay at home mom, working woman with or with out children or a combination of both?
by restrangled ini am asking this based on sd-7's posts and am curious what you consider fair as far as house upkeep in the position you are in.. i was raised in the 60/70 decades from parents married in the 1950's so i seem to have a pretty old fashioned idea of what "housewife" means.. when i was working i had no tolerance for any slop habits, but since i'm home i don't require much.. so what are your ideals, how does your home operate?
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Hi Girls. I have been married over 20 years and have always worked. When my kids were little, I only worked about 2-3 days a week and it was shifts. I would get up withe the kids get them off, clean and have dinner in the crock pot, have lunches done for the next day come home at 12mn and start it all again. When my schedule was like that I did absolutely everything all kids doctor appts, went on every school event, cleaned the house, maintained 2 acres and the car and was a good little JW. Now I work full time and then some and I need help. My husband does a lot more now. He gets the kids off in the morning (does a better job than I did). The boys mow the lawn. Car goes to the car wash. I am not quit as obsessive about the house, found out that the window washing police don't come if it's not done by memorial day. I find it so interesting that a woman could be an accomplished professional who works 80 hours a week, but the way the house looks is a reflection on her and no one else, jeez! NMKA
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First Time that I Didn't Go to the Memorial - Now Depressed
by daniel-p inso this was the very first time in my whole life that i didn't go to the memorial.
my wife went, and she was sullen before and after... i know she wanted me to go.
i told her afterwards that if she wants me to go next year i would, but she didn't say anything.
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Sorry you feel bad Daniel. My husband also went, he is pressured by family and he feels that attendance keeps them off our backs, maybe he is right. I could never figure people out that only went to the memorial. I can't bring myself to go, even for him. Sometimes I too miss the community, all the "friends". Remind yourself they would all stab you in the back if they knew your true thoughts. We have the same mixed emotions about spirituality and religion, I don't know and surely don't know how to lead my kids in that area. Let us know if you figure it all out, for what it's worth, you are not alone. NMKA
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what is your job ?i was wondering how varied our different jobs are !
by looloo ini am a support worker for adults with profound disabilities and some with autism and i love caring for people ..
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Have you Been Shunned Even Though Just Considered " Inactive " ?
by flipper inmany of us here on the board are " inactive" , myself included.
have not attended meetings or gone out in service for years.
i haven't now for 6 years + .
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Some extended family will not speak to us. Other family still associate, but it is stiff and awkward because they really don't have any other outside interests to base a conversation on. For our kids, they have a life now, planning for college, playing sports and friends, if they mention these things it just falls on deaf ears. As for friends, just a few that will still speak to us, mainly because they are not the super zealot types. Most witness have stopped patronizing my husband's business. When you leave you really have to be prepared to start over.
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Before It's Too Late ...
by The Berean inwhile i dont usually submit long-winded posts ... this one might well be worth it for those who do not fully realize the emotional and financial hazard involved in living as though the world, as we know it, is about to end:.
first let me say, bob and mary, i will call them, are a decent and caring couple who have been married forty or so years.
they were both raised as jehovahs witnesses and have consistently lived their faith.
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If you were in the org for a minute you saw this scenerio play out again and again. Journey-on, we too left for the sake of our children, they were a bit older than yours. We appreciate regular life so much more now, just sitting at a sporting event with the kids or helping the older ones look at college and career choices. I have friends "still in" lament that they wish they could just leave, then do it! It is never going to be easy, nothing worth doing ever is.
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my mum taught us very valuable lessons about Jehovah in her special way. Any other parents out there as psycho?
by God Chick inok before i start i know my mum was um "special" and had some, well...... bizzare training ideas.. .
i was one of 7 kids, dad didnt help much coz he was sick, so my mum was left to run the 'ship' and she did it with an iron fist.. .
we were never late for a meeting we sat, parents and 2 kids in one row the other 5 in row in front.
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That is just horrible. The organization is just not a good place for an unstable parent as your mother was. I hope you are far far away now. It speaks to your internal strength of character that you have any sense of normalcy now, so sorry you had to go through that. NMKA
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Four to five days unshaven, stubble, love it!
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whose hiding in the toilets at the kingdom hall?
by highdose inthis was a favorite way of getting away from the very unloving "loving brothers and sisters".
hide in the toilets, no one can collar you and tell you off.
and even better you won't be in amongst a group of people but still feeling so alone... at least you will actauly be alone!.
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My husband and I used to argue about who would take the kids to the potty. Who would take the dirty diaper to the car in the little bag, who would run home with the little one who didn't make it to the potty. Anything to get the hell out of there!